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It's easy to say 'the right thing'  
 
This is the conclusion to my article written for Brother Craig Butts of Takingthejourney.com 
The Link to Part 1 on Taking The Journey is no longer available or needed, since it is now offline and only
available as a part of the Back Order Subscription for 'TakingTheJourney'.  

However I have archivee the ones I wrote right here for you.  
Click here to go to Part 1
 

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(Part 2 the conclusion)

How Deep is your love?

(his = man or woman)

1. How deep is his love, if he just met you.
2. How deep is his love? He's willing to have you sacrifice your friends, that have been there for you, for years through thick and thin and for someone you don't even know.  And what if he is not who he is frontin to be?  Are your friends supposed to just take you back now, when he walks out of your life?
3. How deep is his love?  He would have you trust a total stranger with your life, heart and emotions.
4. How deep is his love? Is he really gonna give up his friends just because he's asking you to give up yours?
 
Well he impressed her enough that she mentioned him to me and she ended up breaking off our relationship.  Of course I mean I was a friend and he doesn't do friends.  I also spoke with a female friend of hers and they were no longer talking as well as another friend of hers.  
 
Well I met her almost a year later and yes you guessed it they had broken up.  I asked, why?  She said because he was too much of a liar.  My thoughts were OH, really?  There's a surprise....and in all that wasted time we could have gotten to know each other well as friends and maybe gone on to the next level.  Such a waste, it still effects me to this day.
 
Now reverse the roles, if a brother says let's be friends.  You continue to meet people and see who you want to, but let's spend some good quality time if you're interested and get to know each other...
The lady says Noooooo,  I don't do friends...what are we supposed to think?
 
Are you putting off a good man because you want to move so fast?  Do you care about me or are you just concerned about finding a partner at all costs, without any concern for if it will really work or not.  At least you got a man!
 
Ladies if a man walks up to you, meets you and is ready to marry you, he is either

1. deceiptful OR
2. very naive to believe that's all there is to selecting a partner for LIFE is a nice warm fuzzy felling  OR
3. selfish to expect that you would sacrifice your whole life to someone you don't even know.  OR likely
4. All the above
 
Friends/Just Friends
 
SISTERS it is OK to be friends and I don't like that 'just friends' tag all the time.  Sometimes it's 'just friends' if you don't think a lot of the serious potential of a particular person.  But sometimes it's not 'just friends'. That slights the value of true close friendship.  Close and real friendships can be very rewarding, more so that many marraiges!! Yeah, think about that!
 
If you meet someone that has serious potential or not, Being friends first allows you to:
***Protect each other from the pain of rejection or failure, there really isn't any if you were just friends anyway. You just don't wanna go further.
***Allows you to get to know the real person not the fake front we may deliberately put on or we may even unconsciously put it on and not realize it.
***See the unselfishness in each other. Are you willing to risk loosing someone if it means that person would be happier with someone else? THAT'S REAL LOVE! 
***See if they are mature and capable of making good tough decisions (the first one being should we go further with each other)
 
We could have relationships anytime we want.  If that's what you want.  How many people have you said no to.  How many people want to be with you but just ARE NOT your type.   How many people would say HELL YEAH, right now, if you asked them?  But the goal is happiness.  Decide which one you want, just a relationshi or a happy longlasting relationship.  If it's to be happy then go about it the right way to give yourself the best chance.  Some people say nothing is garaunteed but that's even more reason to give yourself every chance possible to succeed.
 
  


Article written by Ted Harge: 
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